Ever feel shocked and defeated as if you were shrinking in size at that very moment. Do you feel stunned in certain situations and you don’t seem to know what to do? Maybe you decide to do nothing and yet you may begin to wonder what is wrong? More specifically you may wonder what is wrong with me?
The following attempt is to begin to simplify what can be a complicated subject. When beginning inner child work you may feel scared or resistant to change or to a new awareness. This is only natural. Your mind/body prefers the equilibrium of its current comfort zone. In other words your mind/body likes the comfortable routine of being expected to perform under the same conditions every day. Conditions like non-nutritious foods, lack of exercise, or stress in the form of limiting beliefs and behaviors that can oppose the changes you want to make. You may find yourself in a seemly endless struggle of slipping back into the same old tired ways of thinking and behaving, or you are using simple denial to forget about doing new health giving behaviors. There is help for you.
Changing your mind and behavior is a science. Certain immutable laws govern the process of transformation. When you know and apply these immutable laws you can reach your goals with mathematical certainty.
The following is the beginning of the incredible clinically proven techniques you can choose to safely learn by following one step or lesson at a time.
- Make a positive purpose statement such as “on the way to clearing and healing the past limiting beliefs and behaviors from my childhood.”
- Have fun coming up with questions to ask yourself.
- Journal for stress release and coping
Have you ever heard, “Can’t you do anything right?” Or “You’re so stupid.” These statements may ring true in your memories and can cause you anxiety and even depression. By asking the following questions of yourself you can begin to find the answers. Where might you have heard this before? When was this statement embedded into your subconscious?
By tracing the memories backward you may discover similar statements barked at you by unaware parents. Once such statements are said they are quickly forgotten by parents and you too may have forgotten it was ever said. However your subconscious has never forgotten. Furthermore either Dad or Mom probably didn’t want to speak of the outburst again. How could they without understanding their own psychological repressed issues? Except these same hurting, even devastating words pop up from the subconscious of the parents every time they became angry at you for not doing something the way they perceived it to be. In other words “The Right Way.” The Right Way is really their way which is in accord to their ego’s perception.
I call this The Right Way Syndrome. You won’t find it in any text book but it prevails in the way people are driven subconsciously by past forgotten statements. These statements are charged with intense emotion. Parents when you’re little seem like Gods and have unbelievable power to mold us.
You may have other statements that with time you can bring up from your subconscious to process and to eventually let them go. Statements like, “What’s the matter with you?” “You’re never going to amount to much.” Or when you were sharing your most precious gift say of intelligence beyond your years you may have been heard, “Stop being so precocious.” It can go on and on but you can ask the question of yourself. That question would be, “I want to know what self-blocking statements from my childhood have negative power over me?
This is where keeping a journal might come in handy. By initiating a positive habit of writing or blogging everyday for just 15-20 minutes, you can easily cope with your stress and discover your own blocking thoughts.
“When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead!” – Barney Stinson.
Your post reminded me of that quote. I love it. 🙂