Gain Food Freedom from Past Diet Habits by Applying This School Teacher Technique Today

Your Mother’s Diet

 Achieve Weight Balance Success With Healthy Eating

First Posted July 28, 2008
By Kathleen Fuller, 

You know how you have cravings for chocolate? It is hard to imagine but there are millions of moms that stop their daughters from eating certain fattening foods. Or millions of moms that don‘t seem to notice that their daughters are overeating. Maybe these moms are stuck in certain diet habits and unaware of weight balance success through healthy eating.

Here is the first secret answer to gain weight balance success with healthy eating diet habits.

Now after my 17 years of private practice in psychotherapy & hypnotherapy, and specializing in Eating Disorders I am going to reveal the First Secret to Overcoming Your Mother’s Diet that women can use to gain food freedom from the inside out.

If you want more food freedom from past diet habits this is the technique for you.

Remember when Johnnie had to write “I will not hit in Class.”? Well let’s turn this into a very positive and effective technique because the subconscious eliminates the not and hears, “I will hit in class.”

So by teaching you to write positively, research shows, you can change your life in twenty-one days. This means you can have more freedom from your mother’s diet habits and enjoy weight balance success through healthy eating in as little as twenty-one days.

This technique is called The ” School Teacher Technique” and here is how you do it:

Write fifteen times a day for twenty-one days, “I love and accept myself and I can easily change.” That’s it and it is so pure and simple.

The operative principle here is say it until it comes true.

It’s a common pitfall for many people to minimize the positive steps they’ve already made or are asked to make, like the above “School Teacher Technique”. You’re not alone if you’re feeling this way.

So often the mind will skim over the small steps and minimize your progress as a way of denying the truth. The good news is you can choose to view this as a positive road sign. You can choose to release the denial and allow yourself the opportunity to be involved, motivated, and bold about your progress.

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Can’t You Do Anything Right? Never Good Enough? Here’s an Inner Child Adventure to Become Free

Ever feel shocked and defeated as if you were shrinking in size at that very moment. Do you feel stunned in certain situations and you don’t seem to know what to do? Maybe you decide to do nothing and yet you may begin to wonder what is wrong? More specifically you may wonder what is wrong with me?

Free yourself from what is blocking you to your success.

The following attempt is to begin to simplify what can be a complicated subject. When beginning inner child work you may feel scared or resistant to change or to a new awareness. This is only natural. Your mind/body prefers the equilibrium of its current comfort zone. In other words your mind/body likes the comfortable routine of being expected to perform under the same conditions every day. Conditions like non-nutritious foods, lack of exercise, or stress in the form of limiting beliefs and behaviors that can oppose the changes you want to make. You may find yourself in a seemly endless struggle of slipping back into the same old tired ways of thinking and behaving, or you are using simple denial to forget about doing new health giving behaviors. There is help for you.

Changing your mind and behavior is a science. Certain immutable laws govern the process of transformation. When you know and apply these immutable laws you can reach your goals with mathematical certainty.
The following is the beginning of the incredible clinically proven techniques you can choose to safely learn by following one step or lesson at a time.
Beginning Steps:

  1.  Make a positive purpose statement such as “on the way to clearing and healing the past limiting beliefs and behaviors from my childhood.”
  2.  Have fun coming up with questions to ask yourself.
  3.  Journal for stress release and coping

Have you ever heard, “Can’t you do anything right?” Or “You’re so stupid.” These statements may ring true in your memories and can cause you anxiety and even depression. By asking the following questions of yourself you can begin to find the answers. Where might you have heard this before? When was this statement embedded into your subconscious?
By tracing the memories backward you may discover similar statements barked at you by unaware parents. Once such statements are said they are quickly forgotten by parents and you too may have forgotten it was ever said. However your subconscious has never forgotten. Furthermore either Dad or Mom probably didn’t want to speak of the outburst again. How could they without understanding their own psychological repressed issues? Except these same hurting, even devastating words pop up from the subconscious of the parents every time they became angry at you for not doing something the way they perceived it to be. In other words “The Right Way.” The Right Way is really their way which is in accord to their ego’s perception.
I call this The Right Way Syndrome. You won’t find it in any text book but it prevails in the way people are driven subconsciously by past forgotten statements. These statements are charged with intense emotion. Parents when you’re little seem like Gods and have unbelievable power to mold us.
You may have other statements that with time you can bring up from your subconscious to process and to eventually let them go. Statements like, “What’s the matter with you?” “You’re never going to amount to much.” Or when you were sharing your most precious gift say of intelligence beyond your years you may have been heard, “Stop being so precocious.” It can go on and on but you can ask the question of yourself. That question would be, “I want to know what self-blocking statements from my childhood have negative power over me?
This is where keeping a journal might come in handy. By initiating a positive habit of writing or blogging  everyday for just 15-20 minutes, you can easily cope with your stress and discover your own blocking thoughts.

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Are You A Slave to Your Way of Thinking? Spiritual Coping Tool for the Mind/Body

If you believe and/or put your attention on what is wrong in your life, you are unfortunate and you are or will be a slave to that habitual negative thinking.
On the other side, look at the extroverted spiritual seeker with his or her five external senses, who will perceive the same world or circumstances as being filled with light and love. But he or she sees and experiences something the average person does not see or experience. He/she observes that this same world and circumstances are transformed into something through which the spiritual flow shines to illuminate one’s senses. Mystics and seekers of God have found that God is in everything.
If so, then what can help you to change your consciousness from focusing on your or the world’s negative troubles to the ecstatic state of consciousness of peace and happiness?
Research finds that long periods of contemplation may tire your mind/body. By contemplation, I use this definition of contemplation which explains it as a spiritual exercise during which your attention is focused upon some specific spiritual principle, thought, idea, and your inner master as you know it. This is different from meditation because the definite principle, or vision gives purpose to focusing your attention, and is active, rather than passive as is meditation.
Here is what you can do. Go to a quiet place like an isolated room, garden, hilltop, or body of water (like the picture of myself by the St. Lucie River). Here is where you can tune into yourself as Soul by deep breathing. Notice unruly thoughts and practice letting them drift away or envision cutting them off at the root.
The life giving part of the air element in this physical world is inhaled. This life giving part is not mainly oxygen, but the spiritual current, which is essential to all activities of the mind/body, as well as you as Soul in these lower worlds.
This is a loving perspective and when you choose to fill yourself up with peace and happiness you change yourself inwardly and you also change the world. The following is a book that explains this principle of changing yourself and that action changes the world around you, using the element of water. By using researched photos of water crystals before and after emotions are expressed or a blessing is said to the water.
The book I recommend is, The True Power of Water by Masaeu Emoto. In his book you will learn of the unique properties of water. “You will learn the effect each of us has on water – not only the water you drink but also the water that makes up 70 percent of each human body and, most importantly what happens to that water as you interact with other humans.”
Another interesting example of energy or vibrational ( defined as a characteristic emanation, aura, or spirit that infuses or vitalizes someone or something and that can be instinctively sensed or experienced )work is being done in the area of subtle energy fields. The new term BioField adopted in 1994, by The National Institute of Health is being used to describe this subtle energy that extends out from the body. When the BioField is out of balance, your body is more susceptible to immune deficiencies. Check out this website for more information:

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The Power of Taking One More Step

Lighting the Way to empowermentSometimes the art of taking just one more step can radically change the course of your life for the better -forever. It can be as simple as getting a good night’s rest so you can begin with a new outlook the next day, or as dramatic and life-changing as the following dream.

About ten years ago, I dreamed I survived an enormous hurricane and found myself struggling with the aftermath. Rubble surrounded me and a strange smell hung in the air. I climbed over beams and under roofs. I fell and scratched my knees and legs, and even twisted an ankle. Yet I knew I needed and wanted to keep moving forward. I knew I wanted to survive.

The path soon became steep. I leaned forward and willed my legs to keep walking. I wondered about the prospect of returning home instead of moving forward. “Why am I doing this?” I asked myself. “This is crazy. I could go back.” On I pushed. I felt compelled to keep moving forward, taking just one more step, and then another, through the rubble.

I felt frustrated and hopeless. I was so tired I could barely see where I was going. I had to fight feelings of discouragement. Finally the path opened into a valley nestled between two foothills. I realized I had entered a bowl-shaped crater carved out by the forceful hurricane winds.

The devastation from the hurricane lay strewn around me. I started looking for things I could use to survive. I found a leather tool belt—the kind carpenters wear—and buckled it around my hips. I scanned the surrounding countryside and saw scattered tools and supplies: an ax, a hammer, a pocket utility knife, a plastic jug of water, and some rope.

I gathered the tools and hung them in the leather holders and pockets of the tool belt. Each time I put one into my belt, I felt the power of its possibilities. The events made sense on a profound level. I stood tall with the leather belt supported on my hips, feeling completely safe. I knew I was entering another stage of my journey and felt excited about getting started.

In the dream I opened up to the highest possibilities in a spiritual sense. I knew that whatever I undertook, I would be successful at it with the help and guidance of my Higher Power. I woke up from the dream feeling excited and filled with trust for what life had to offer.

 Notable Dream Keys

  • Notice how you feel when you awaken from a dream.
  • Keep a dream journal, writing not only the elements and analysis of your dreams, but also your mood or emotional state immediately upon awakening. This is often a clue or a key to the hidden wisdom of your dream.
  • Then ask in writing(maybe in a journal) for Your Higher Power to show more clues to the meaning of your dream.
  • Expect answers and keep vigilant in seeking those answers.
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What is Co-Dependency? Why Should You Care?

You can use the following patterns and characteristics as your guide to self-evaluation. Be careful to open up to the possibility that you may have traits that need your attention and transformation.

Do you see an old or young woman? Codependency can be hidden from you too.

Denial Patterns: (Denial is a defense mechanism that most people use to defend themselves against what they do not have to accept about themselves.)
1. Do you have difficulty stating what you are feeling emotionally?
2. Do you minimize, change, deny, regress what you really feel?
3. Do you perceive yourself as completely unselfish and dedicated to helping others?

Self-Esteem Patterns (Low Self-Esteem)
1. Do you have trouble making decisions?
2. Do you believe what you say or do or think is never ‘good enough?’
3. Are you embarrassed to accept compliments, praise, or gifts?
4. Do you have trouble asking for your needs or desires?
5. Do you value other peoples’ opinions, judgments, feelings, and behaviors over your own?
6. Do you view yourself as a lovable and worthy person?

Compliance Behaviors
1. Do you let your values or standards slip to avoid rejection or other peoples’ anger?
2. Are you very sensitive to knowing or hearing what other people feel and you seem to feel, the same?
3. Are you extremely loyal to another even if that person’s behaviors are consistently hurting you?
4. Do you put high value on others opinions, and advice more than your own inner truth, while you often feel afraid or anxious to speak up with a different opinion?
5. Do you minimize or let go of your interests or hobbies in order to do what others or another wants to do?
6. Do you accept sex when you want someone to really love you?

Control Behaviors
1. Do you try to convince other people by giving them advice to do what they should do or think or feel?
2. Do you hold resentments toward others when they don’t listen to your advice or help?
3. Do you freely give advice and directions as to what to do without being asked?
4. Do you give great or lavish gifts and favors to those you care about?
5. Do you believe other people who you want to help, are not capable of taking proper care of themselves?
6. Do you use sex to gain approval, acceptance or perceived love?
7. Do have to feel needed in order to have a relationship with others in your life?

How many traits did you realize you have? Are you willing to begin to change these traits a little at a time? A book I recommend for further study is Co-Dependency No More by Melody Beatty. Plus this blog has many articles that will help your self-esteem.

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“Speak Ups” Verbal Exercises for Your Self Esteem Ask Yourself, “Am I Controlling, or Feeling Controlled or Powerless?”

When you’re feeling hopeless, helpless, powerless, and don’t know consciously how to access your power and leave these feelings behind, it’s often easy to act in controlling ways toward yourself and toward others. In the following example, Jenny discovers that she has a choice in how she responds.
Once during a business meeting, a co-worker asked Jenny to pick up a client at the airport. Inwardly Jenny felt this was a hassle, beneath her job description, and she just didn’t want to do it. Jenny was furious at her friend for asking but found she couldn’t say no, so she agreed to meet the plane. Then Jenny felt hurt, trapped, and hostile. She began to pout by looking down at her notebook and stopped interacting at the meeting.
Situations such as this had happened many times in the past. Usually Jenny would go home and eat, stuffing her anger. However this time, Jenny’s boss confronted her.
“You’re controlling everyone in this room,” she said. “You haven’t said a word, but you’ve had everyone’s attention for the last fifteen minutes. You know it too—you’re smiling.”
Shocked and ashamed, Jenny knew it was true, for she felt like laughing even as she was being confronted about her angry, controlling behavior.
Her boss continued, “If you make the choice to use that energy in a positive, purposeful way, you’d be a powerful being who could accomplish anything.”
Jenny was hit with the truth. Powerful? Angry and controlling? Accomplish anything? She knew she felt like an ashamed little girl and began to wonder about the dynamics of the dichotomy that triggered her urge to laugh.
This was a turning point for Jenny. She gradually became more aware of her behavior and its effect on others, even when she felt powerless and didn’t fully know what she was doing. Deep inside, Jenny knew she was a powerful spiritual being. But she also knew she had bought too heavily into the societal belief that it was more acceptable to be helpless.
That day Jenny learned what it felt like to be on the dark side of control, allowing herself to be controlled, and the flip side of manipulating and controlling others. When Jenny negated her feelings by agreeing to do what she did not want to do, she denied her own truth and undermined her true self, thus lowering her self esteem.
Jenny might have handled the situation differently. She could have asked for support and help from others at the meetingbut she didn’t. It was easier for Jenny to act out of past habits and patterns. Well after the event, Jenny realized she had a choice in how she could respond. The simple truth is this: Jenny could have responded by just saying, “No.”

Saying No and Feeling Good about It

Learn ways to say “No” to what you don’t want in your life so that there’s more room for you to say “Yes” to what you do want.
Some non-assertive verbal samples are apologetic words, veiled meanings, hedging or failing to make a point, rambling, or failing to say what you really want. Some examples of assertive statements are honest statement of feelings, objective words, and using the” I messages.”

Assertiveness Scripts
(1) Disagree with a straightforward statement (“I don’t agree with your understanding of . . .”)
(2) Confront by denying the statement is relevant to the conversation (“That’s not the point.”)
(3) Reword negative labels by framing it in positive words (“I am not being childish; I’m stating my view.”)
(4) Repeat your main point until it is heard without anger
(5) Ask Questions if you’re not comfortable with a point, or ask for clarification (“How do you see me as childish or selfish?”)
(6) State Feelings by using “I” statements that reflect your opinion about the situation (“I really feel this is important!”)
(7) Be Short and Quick by just saying “NO” directly

A word of caution when you first start to speak up you may experience aggressive statements such as loaded words, accusations, descriptive, subjective terms, imperious, superior words, and the use of “you messages.” For example rather than saying, “You make me feel __________,” the speaker says, “I feel _____________when the floor is cluttered with your cloths. No one is to blame for someone’s feelings. You have control over how you feel and with practice you’ll learn others cannot make you feel a certain way. You’ll also learn that by your choices you can feel empowered with better self esteem.

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The Diet Myth

The Diet Myth
Remember when you used to get the newest diet book in your hands, literally hot off the press? Guaranteed, it says. Guaranteed to work or your money back!  “This time it’s going to work,” you think. “I just know it. It says so right here in print. Guaranteed!”

Although you’ve been here many times before, you still think this time is going to be the last. So many feelings are wrapped up in this moment. It’s almost magical. A confluence of emotions race through you as you simultaneously experience the thrill of hope, success, approval, attention, and a feeling of rightness with the world. This time you know deep in your heart that you will do it right.  “I’ll be beautiful,” you think. And then you’re lost in a dream—a diet dream.

This is the basis of the insidious diet myth. We’re led to believe that all our problems will be solved, all our dreams will come true—if only we diet. Even the word diet conjures up seemingly magical wishes and promises. Among these are hopes and dreams of future success about everything from beauty, self-esteem, feeling all right, being a good girl, as well as approval from others. But the diet myth is not magic. It is a lie.

Because it is silently sanctioned by society and tied in with equally misleading myths about being overweight, the diet myth continues to pervade society and is impervious to criticism. The combination of myths about dieting and the causes of overweight weave invisible threads that have the potential to knot up years of your life and wreak a megaton of damage to your health and well-being with time.What’s most frustrating is that one person can’t change these societal beliefs (which are imbued as if they were the truth) for everyone. But one person can change their personal relationship to this propaganda for themselves—largely by seeing the diet myth for what it really is, gaining a truer understanding of its fallibility, and altering their response to it.  For more info-check out the bestselling book- Not Your Mother’s Diet on Amazon.


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